i have been wanting to start a blog just about my life and to share ups and down that we all face to teach and help as many people as possible. i feel that i have something inside me that i’d like to share with the world. i didn’t know the direction that i wanted to go for a long time and thus was just spinning my wheels.
then I thought that maybe no one would be interested. But you know what, if you are great if not that’s fine… this blog is about life, love, laughter and the pursuit of “happyness”.
the challenges we face and how we do and don’t overcome them. the funny side of bad and the ugly side of funny. yeah that was a weird saying. anyhow. hopefully it will fun and interesting and healing for us all. i hope that i can make someone laugh and help someone change their life… to realize that this thing that we do called love is pretty cool.
see ya soon…
Kenney
p.s. maybe my wife will be a little happier to, because i have a ton of those yellow sticky notes and my new fave yellow legal pads 
[tags]love, life, the pursuit of happyness[/tags]
Hi Kenney,
Just checking out your blog. I am commenting on here goes nothing. I love life as well and I also love my husband BUT I feel he places his family before me. Anytime something goes wrong at home or they don’t have the funds for something, he goes running as if he’s suppose to save everyone and help everyone. I feel it’s okay to be there for family but I also think that they know if they are in need he will give freely. ith that said, I think they use him to a point. I’m in the pursuit of happyness and he doesn’t get it. I think it has been inbedded in him that he’s suppose to help everyone. What do you think? Thanks for listening….
@Veronica: hey there. i am sorry it took me so long to respond. been somewhat MIA. first, thanks for commenting. yea, it’s tough when the one that you love and want to give your everything to puts you second. i know (we know) that love should unconditional and that we should love without the expectation of being loved back. (not that he doesn’t love you, i am sure that he does)… but we are humans and it does hurt still when we don’t get what we expected especially when it comes to love.
we all want to be loved and to FEEL loved. it’s important! very! i have something in common with your hubby, i am all about helping (fam or friends or strangers for that matter), BUT i don’t put them before my wife though. i am just a giver. most givers do get used because most people are selfish (to a big or small degree) and only care about what they need and usually like to take the easy way out.
to me it doesn’t seem that helping is the problem, but more so that he isn’t giving you the love and time that you want. that he isn’t putting you first. that he isn’t fulfilling something that you are looking for and want him to fulfill. i could be wrong, but that’s the read i am getting from your comment.
solution: talk with him about how you feel. calmly. remember he is a guy, so be gentle so that you don’t get a good response. don’t argue. talk with him about your dreams and goals… share your most intimate secrets with him. a great time to do this is right after you have had a good day (like a date day) and have had some love making. guys are more apt to listen after sex. they are extremely vulnerable. now that i have given you that lil secret don’t abuse it. well, i don’t think that you will cause you seem like a good person at heart.
have patience as love should
… perfect example i tried to talk with my wife this morning about something that bothered me and she got all huffy, so i was like forget it then. i wasn’t trying to make her mad, i was trying to tell her something that was on my heart. anyhow… now i don’t feel like talking about it at all. and the more that that happens the less that i want to share or talk about anything that is on my heart and i have been married for almost 11 yrs. i will just bottle it up and not say anything. but that’s not healthy or good.
i listen to a lot of peoples concerns and what’s on their heart and she is my best friend so she is who i have to dump my mess on (in a nice way) and when i get that kindof response it sucks, because it’s the person i prefer to share stuff with. so, i just go to God and talk with him about what’s on my heart. ask for His guidance and help. or just ask Him to listen and He does
but we got a relationship like that lol
i hope that it goes well. plan that date day and share your heart. tell me how it goes.